Today and Uchideshi Essay
So, I have quite a bit to still type up and post here, and I'm looking forward to doing it. The last few days I have busy making phone calls back home and handling some work there along with wrapping up translating some essays for Soshihan in Japan and still being involved here in Germany with my friend Max, his family, and the dojo community here. (German Cherry-blossoms; I got some pictures of blossoms in the UK, too: cherry blossoms in 3 countries!)
This morning I got up early and headed to morning class, which starts with massage and then goes into techniques and ends with weapons. Afterwards, I had breakfast with many of the students, and I was entertained to find out the Kirsten (one of the godans with exceptional skill whom I'd greatly enjoyed training with last time) and her husband Olivar (also a godan whom I greatly enjoyed training with last time) were both uchideshi at Kobayashi Dojo in 1996 (at age 18 or so)! Fascinatingly enough, though some names were different, the schedule was much the same then as it is now, as were many of the duties. It sounds like the current version has less sleep, but it sounds like we also have much nicer facilities (no cockroaches etc.). It was very fun comparing notes, training schedules, and events--it was also really neat to listen to her stories from back then.
To begin my final wave of posts, I will paste in my uchideshi essay below (we were required to write one about our experiences there, which could relate to anything we observed or did). I submitted it to the dojo some time back, so now I will let it start your brains percolating before I dive into some heavier reflections that I've had that are more appropriate for this place, which is read by my friends and those I know, than in a essay that will be posted to Kobayashi Sensei's website.
My Uchideshi Essay
This morning I got up early and headed to morning class, which starts with massage and then goes into techniques and ends with weapons. Afterwards, I had breakfast with many of the students, and I was entertained to find out the Kirsten (one of the godans with exceptional skill whom I'd greatly enjoyed training with last time) and her husband Olivar (also a godan whom I greatly enjoyed training with last time) were both uchideshi at Kobayashi Dojo in 1996 (at age 18 or so)! Fascinatingly enough, though some names were different, the schedule was much the same then as it is now, as were many of the duties. It sounds like the current version has less sleep, but it sounds like we also have much nicer facilities (no cockroaches etc.). It was very fun comparing notes, training schedules, and events--it was also really neat to listen to her stories from back then.
To begin my final wave of posts, I will paste in my uchideshi essay below (we were required to write one about our experiences there, which could relate to anything we observed or did). I submitted it to the dojo some time back, so now I will let it start your brains percolating before I dive into some heavier reflections that I've had that are more appropriate for this place, which is read by my friends and those I know, than in a essay that will be posted to Kobayashi Sensei's website.
My Uchideshi Essay
It is strange to me that today is my last day here; I am
packed and finishing final projects for Kobayashi Shihan. Soon I will begin the usual morning routine
of cleaning the dojo, eating breakfast, and heading to Fuchu to train. However, unlike usual, I won’t be returning
to get more work and cleaning done and then to continue the regular uchideshi
life. Instead, I will be heading out to
a hotel near the airport and then flying away.
Now at the end of my time here, it seems like it was both a short time
and a long time.
Each person comes to this uchideshi program with different
goals and motivations, and many people here have different, and sometimes
conflicting, expectations of what uchideshi are and what they are supposed to
do. Add to that the fact that dojo
communities are living, changing groups, and I’m fairly certain that no one
person’s experience here will ever be quite the same as another person’s.
For myself, I came to train with Kobayashi Shihan and learn
from him, to learn more about the heart and history of Aikido from his
perspective, and to learn more about the culture and how Aikido is perceived in
Japan by practicing at multiple dojos in the Kobayashi Dojo network and at Hombu
dojo. I planned to do my best to serve
Sensei and the dojo community, and I also planned to have some time away from
my usual life to pray and reflect on what’s going on back home without being
immersed in it to where I couldn’t see.
My wife and I have some challenging things to think through as the
Christian ministry and the dojo that I run in Kansas both continue to grow and
change, as do we.
To some degree, I would say that each of my original goals
was met, though once I was here I was too busy to ever actively work towards
any of them too much. Besides the usual
uchideshi life, I still had duties back home that I had to take care of through
emails, messages, and a few phone calls.
That and extra training and experiences with the other uchideshi tended
to use up all of my time.
Nonetheless, through the experience itself I did learn a lot
about Japanese culture, I learned more about how Aikido is perceived here in
Japan, and I also learned a lot from Soshihan—more by watching and observing
than anything else as my Japanese was too limited to have any deep talks with
him. Most of my reflections would take
too long to put into one essay, and a lot of them would be hard to put into
words anyway (or would be inappropriate to discuss as they came about by
observing different instructors here, and I don’t feel it’s right to compare
and contrast teachers in a public forum like this). However, perhaps the biggest thing that
sticks out to me about Soshihan, and one of the larger ideas I picked up here
is something I can share.
Part of Soshihan’s great success and part of why so many of
his students and those who’ve met him deeply respect and care about him is that
he is humble, caring, and he is truly himself.
He does not put on airs or act like he’s above everyone. On the contrary, he is friendly with everyone
in the dojo, he throws and is thrown by the lowest rank, and though everyone
knows that he’s Soshihan, he feels like he’s practicing Aikido and sharing his
joy and skill with you rather than standing above you and teaching down to you.
Other Sensei of higher rank in many places in the world will
still work with anyone, but they do so in a way that shows how far above they
are; they intentionally create a gap so that their rank and authority is always
on display, and they make certain no one ever forgets their position. These Sensei create very vertical
relationships founded on rank and hierarchy.
What I find funny is that Soshihan, by not emphasizing rank
and hierarchy is actually more successful at having people respect him than
those that demand respect through a vertical system. The reason is that a vertical system demands
respect because of the way that it’s built.
The structure and ranking is the reason that people are supposed to give
their respect. However, creating such a
system makes many people actually resent the people at the top instead of
respecting them. This is largely due to
the fact that actual respect that is sincere and from the heart comes with
time, trust, and relationships—all things that Soshihan freely gives—not from a
system that demands respect. A system
that demands respect creates fake respect on the outside of a person in the way
they behave, but it usually creates disrespect and conflict in their
hearts. On the flip side, when a person
like Soshihan lives a sincere life, their time, devotion, and skill become evident. When he trains with you and you feel his joy
and that he’s living what he believes, you find yourself respecting him in your
heart even though he hasn’t demanded it.
In fact, your desire to respect what he is and does even makes your
respect result in actions on the outside.
It’s the way that a true uchideshi program should operate. By getting to know someone and train with
them, an uchideshi develops trust and respect for the person and does all of
their work because they want to. In
fact, they may even go out of their way to do more just because their respect
is genuine. Other programs in other
places that simply demand respect and obedience because of how the system is
built may be functional on the outside, but inside of the people’s hearts they
are dysfunctional.
Soshihan’s humility has also allowed him to become a
tremendous bridge and connector of people in the Aikido world. By being humble and living his life
sincerely, he has earned the respect of many people from many different groups,
some of which would not normally work together and some of whom may not work
with any other groups. If he demanded
loyalty due to his rank and seniority, he would have it—but from far less
people. By being humble and making no
demands but living what he believed, he has earned respect and loyalty from
many more.
This lesson is an important one, and it gives me some hope
for how I run my dojo and how I teach. I
have been told by students from other places that I feel less Sensei-like than
other Sensei who have taught workshops or intensives for them, but they say
it’s a good thing. They feel like I’m
real and approachable and like they can relate with me and ask me questions,
whereas the other Sensei are too far above them for them to be able to talk to. On one hand, I liked that they were
comfortable, but on the other, I worried that maybe I was being too casual or
that I wasn’t being professional enough.
In the past, I’d been told that I may need to create more of a gap
between myself and my students to prevent disrespect from being a problem in
the dojo, even though there is no disrespect problem occurring at this
time. Ironically, through reflecting on
what Soshihan does right, I now know that creating more of a gap would have
actually created a disrespect problem that was never there. Soshihan’s strong example of effectively
leading as someone who is humble and casual makes me feel much better about how
I teach and my leadership style, when previously I was conflicted. Soshihan’s life, sincerity, and above all his
humility and caring heart will always be an inspiration and a good example to
me—I have so much more growing to do! I
wish him many more healthy years in his beloved dojo community, and I was
honored to be part of it for five short-and long-weeks.
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